QI found this in an online sex ad: “Straight guy with an addiction to massive cocks in my ass.” This “straight guy” went on to mention his girlfriend. Can a person really identify as straight while wanting to be fucked by men? I understand that straight guys can like ass play too, but it’s not like he wants to be pegged by his girlfriend or use a dildo on himself. He’s straight-up (heh-heh) looking for hung dudes to fuck his ass. —Jaded and Wondering, Dude’s Really on Pussy?
QMy girlfriend can’t use hormonal birth control and “doesn’t like” condoms but wants sex. What would you do? —Paternal Anxiety Upsetting Sexual Escapades
QI love my girlfriend. However, she has an issue with things she considers “icky”—like sperm, saliva, sex when menstruating, and anal sex as well as the resulting santorum. She also regards dressing up for sex and talking dirty as silly. She enjoys sex just fine, but it is pretty plain vanilla. Any advice on how to move her in a more experimentalist direction would be appreciated. I am not looking to turn her into an anal fanatic or a sloppy-blow-job queen, but rather for her to put aside her preconceived notions and give some things a try by embracing them fully. —Wants It Less Tedious
So instead of accepting your thanks, SL, I’ll just say this: I’m happy you’re happy, and I’m pleased my column was helpful, but the adventurous sex you’re having and/or looking forward to now? You always had that in you. Reading my column may have helped you tap into your adventurous spirit, but the credit for your sex life—and the responsibility for your sex life—ultimately rests with you.
